Asking This Question Might Have Saved My Life! | What Is Mine To Do? Part 1 | Conversations With the Browns
Part 1 of a conversation about the most important question you can ask yourself
The question, “What is mine to do?” is simple yet can bring clarity and focus to many very nuanced situations. Join us for this conversation about what could be the most important question you can ask yourself.
This podcast episode is a segue from a conversation we had on our last podcast, What is the “Amp Wheel”? Head over there if you want to learn more about what the Amp Wheel is. In this episode, we wanted to talk more about how the question, “What is mine to do?” can bring clarity to many situations, especially if you feel like you are getting amped up about something.
Where did the question come from?
This question, “What is mine to do?” comes from authors Ian Morgan Cron and Susan Stabile and their book The Road Back To You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery. Cron and Stabile are both proponents and teachers of the Enneagram.
Very basically, the Enneagram is a personality test that helps people see how their personalities and how the personalities of the people around them interpret and interact with the world. In some areas, the Enneagram has been reduced to a meme and a way to make fun of people. But learning to understand yourself and other people using the Enneagram can be very useful.
To find out more about the Enneagram tune into Susan Stabile’s podcast, The Enneagram Journey. Stabile talks about this question, “What is mine to do?”.
How asking, “What is mine to do?” can help you
The question, “What is mine to do?” is really asking us to decide what is worth putting our effort into at any given moment. If you feel yourself getting amped up or overwhelmed about a situation, this question will help you to focus on what is truly important to you and relevant for you to be working on.
Asking this question, helps you realize that everyone is gifted in different ways. Different people can bring a different perspective to a situation and a different or better solution. You can support others and be faithful to what is yours to do at the same time.
Stopping and asking the question, “What is mine to do?” works in all situations and relationships. As a parent, do you find yourself cleaning up for the kids instead of having the kids do the cleaning up themselves?
Usually, it’s faster and easier to just get it done yourself. However, your kids are a part of the family and they need to learn to clean up after themselves. This is a good time to stop and ask, “What is mine to do?”
This small shift in thinking about the situation will train your kids to pick up after themselves, but it will also teach them to ask themselves “What is mine to do?”
To do or not to do. That is the question.
Gain clarity and restore relationships
“What is mine to do?” is a very powerful question. The question clarifies partnerships and what is yours to do within them. The question helps you get off the Amp Wheel and figure out what really matters. The question helps you see what pieces you can contribute to.
Asking this question can create more work. It takes longer to teach kids how to clean up after themselves instead of doing it yourself. However, asking “What is mine to do?” is important for growth and letting go of things that don’t really matter. It points you toward the kind of action that is helpful instead of spinning on the Amp Wheel.
Continue the discussion about “What is mine to do?” in Part 2 of our conversation.
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